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Guys--forget those corny pick-up lines...and gals, it's time for YOU to reel HIM in!  We're dishing the dos and don'ts of flirting.

The formal definition of flirting: a liberating form of play with suspense and ambiguities that brings joys of its own.

Yes, flirtation is a savvy skill—there’s actually an art to mastering the game.

Forget those tacky pick-up lines; we ladies think your so-called suave moves are actually kinda corny. In fact, according to Joann Cohen, Scottsdale Relationship Consultant, that’s the number one no-no guys tend to practice.

So we’re here to help—providing you with a mini lesson on successful flirtation tactics.

Let’s start with the guys.

Before anything, Cohen says men first check if the potential of flirting lies in friendly territory.

Once he gives himself the mental “ok,” he’ll often make one of Cohen’s three mistakes: saying a bad pick-up line, staring like a stalker, or avoiding her all together.

Instead, guys should enter a room walking tall with no excessive movements.  Cohen says confidence is the sexiest turn-on, so radiate self-esteem.

Next, detach from the outcome-- no matter what happens, keep in mind you’re a good guy and the right good girl will ultimately reflect that.

Finally, rather than a cheesy pick-up line, go for subdued compliments—perhaps commenting on the color of her eyes or the way she laughs.  Cohen wants you to show your sense of humor, without being too over-the-top.

OK, just when you thought men made all the mistakes, think again—flirting is a two-way street.

Cohen says women tend to go out in groups so big and rather intimidating, that guys fear approaching the situation.

She also offers that many ladies lack confidence—and it shows.

Another major turn-off is that gals often come across as snobby and standoffish.

Lastly, girls simply walk to fast, making it difficult for men to catch up.

So to get around all these mistakes, Cohen has some tips.

First, SMILE.  There is nothing more inviting than an alluringly kind face.

Next, make eye-contact; it shows certainty.  (Plus, it allows the man to know you see them eyeing you.)  In relation, respond to that eye gesture with an additional, welcome grin.

Finally, Cohen says add a little sass—sway your hips when you walk; studies show it increases appeal by 50%.