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'Tis the season for Arizona weddings. Yep, it's that time of year when many Valley gals are saying their vows...so we're helping out the babes behind the bride. Here's what every bridesmaid needs to know.
Attention all bridesmaids: get ready to bow down to the bride. Yep, autumn marks the start of Valley wedding season, and we have the 411 for all those taking part in the happy couple’s big day.According to a handful of wedding websites, there’s a certain etiquette for being the best bridesmaid. So prepare to take some notes—here’s the bridesmaid 411 you need to know.
First things first. To you, the wedding might be an alcohol-infused blast, but to the bride, it’s one of the biggest days of her life. Therefore, simply pretend you’re interested. Reach out via e-mail or text inquiring about details…the flowers, the dress, the venue. Get ready to offer opinions in a tasteful manner, even if you could care less about the color scheme. Give her sporadic calls here and there, allowing your blissful pal a gab session about her latest wedding plans. Truly, you’re a part of her wedding because she loves you, so suck it up and be selfless—you’d appreciate the same royal treatment.
And speaking of TLC, show her you care by tagging along during must-do errands. Take part in the gown search—it’s actually quite fun. (Adding some bubbly to the mix will make things even better!) Document the day by snapping photos…or sneaking pics if the bridal shop doesn’t allow picture taking.
Next—get her wedding gear. Yes, as much as she might despise the veil, sash, or risqué straw, you’ll want to make her bachelorette party festive. Nothing says center-of-attention like bride-to-be attire, so honor the cliché and make her feel special. (And you can later blackmail her with the funny photos.)
And of course you can’t forget about the groom—you know, that poor guy who has to deal with cake tastings, flower arrangements, and endless appointments. Spare the man some stress and keep him posted on traditional rules of the wedding process. There’s nothing wrong with helping him arrange tux appointments, or reminding him the groom usually does something special for his bride on the big day. (Like sending over a little gift or sappy love-letter.)
Ok, this one can be a challenge—but give it a go: help keep the parentals calm, collected, and cool. Take it upon yourself to assist in keeping the peace between the bride and her mom (or any other trying family members); it can be an overwhelming time for everyone.
And finally, ditch the negativity! Be your bride’s cheerleader and #1 fan. Don’t allow outer BS to bring your friend down; instead, stay positive, happy, and excited. Keep her on track, constantly reminding her it’s about a marriage, NOT a wedding. And when all else fails, let her know she’ll be saying “I do” to the man of her dreams within due time. No doubt, that will keep any bride smiling.
